#throwback 2013 |
The guy that we have a crush on, the one who makes our hearts skip a beat.
He's in our thoughts everyday and we can't help but to analyse every single thing about him that'll give us clues if he feels the way about us.
Sweetie, this is the most painful stage of the relationship and
I'm sorry you're going through this but I'm just so glad I'm over it. Oh man all
those weeks of guessing and quizzing. Some cases can even go up to months!
Months of sleep deprived and overanalyzing things.
Some like to be straightforward, some like to beat around the bush. It's the latter that inspires me to write this post actually.
There's a thin line between the sincere one and the one who are testing the water.
And that's why I come
up with this list. And just to be clear with you. I'm not making this up. This is based on real life experience. Based on mine and also some people I know (which I'm not going to reveal their names obviously). But if you want to find out more, keep on reading.
1. He will find a reason to call you. It can be from asking about your general well-being to things that he can google himself but decides to ask you (eg. exhibition/concert dates)
2. He'll try to make you feel comfortable when you guys talk. He knows you're nervous or you might feel like he's way out of your league but slowly he manages to make you feel as worthy as him.
3. He's always smiling when he's around you. And keeps on glancing at you. Oh yeah, he's into you. Don't get confused with a sleazy smile though. More like an innocent smile.
3. Watch out if he's nervous. If he's not, he might think you as a friend. Or he just wants to have a fling.
4. He would organize activities with his friends so that he can invite you to hang out. Every week. It has to be every week. If it's once a month, maybe he just think you as a friend.
5. He would bring you to meet his trusted friends. He might not bring you to meet his clan but he'll bring you to meet his best friend, that's for sure.
6. He will try to impress you. It could be anything from paying for meals on your dates, play the guitar, or talk about stuffs he's good at. Wait, even flirty guys like to do all these. Scratch this. Not really a strong point.
7. He would talk about his future plans and goals. He's also hinting a woman like you in it. Guys who are not looking for commitment would definitely avoid this. This is a good indicator that he's being real!
8. He would subtly say what he wants in a marriage down the road. He's not being too direct but he's actually hinting. It's a good sign.
9. He would phone you for an hour at night before you go to sleep even after you guys have hung out for a day. Because he can't stop thinking about you. He even calls or text you first thing in the morning.
10. At the end of the date, you won't even shake hands. Cuz you're both are just so nervous and shy!
What a trip down to memory lane. It gives me butterflies in the stomach
when I think about all these again. I was lucky to find someone who was direct though
and we are able to tell each other what we want
in a relationship. But before him, goodness. I'v actually felt like giving up. Nevertheless, I know some genuine guys who can't really express
in this kind of way for the fear of rejection. I think. Or they just like to take it slow.
Who knows. What I know, they're happily married now with their awesome wives. Anyway, hope this post is useful for you and hope to see you again in my next post! :)
Months of sleep deprived and overanalyzing things.
Some like to be straightforward, some like to beat around the bush. It's the latter that inspires me to write this post actually.
There's a thin line between the sincere one and the one who are testing the water.
And that's why I come
up with this list. And just to be clear with you. I'm not making this up. This is based on real life experience. Based on mine and also some people I know (which I'm not going to reveal their names obviously). But if you want to find out more, keep on reading.
1. He will find a reason to call you. It can be from asking about your general well-being to things that he can google himself but decides to ask you (eg. exhibition/concert dates)
2. He'll try to make you feel comfortable when you guys talk. He knows you're nervous or you might feel like he's way out of your league but slowly he manages to make you feel as worthy as him.
3. He's always smiling when he's around you. And keeps on glancing at you. Oh yeah, he's into you. Don't get confused with a sleazy smile though. More like an innocent smile.
3. Watch out if he's nervous. If he's not, he might think you as a friend. Or he just wants to have a fling.
4. He would organize activities with his friends so that he can invite you to hang out. Every week. It has to be every week. If it's once a month, maybe he just think you as a friend.
5. He would bring you to meet his trusted friends. He might not bring you to meet his clan but he'll bring you to meet his best friend, that's for sure.
6. He will try to impress you. It could be anything from paying for meals on your dates, play the guitar, or talk about stuffs he's good at. Wait, even flirty guys like to do all these. Scratch this. Not really a strong point.
7. He would talk about his future plans and goals. He's also hinting a woman like you in it. Guys who are not looking for commitment would definitely avoid this. This is a good indicator that he's being real!
8. He would subtly say what he wants in a marriage down the road. He's not being too direct but he's actually hinting. It's a good sign.
9. He would phone you for an hour at night before you go to sleep even after you guys have hung out for a day. Because he can't stop thinking about you. He even calls or text you first thing in the morning.
10. At the end of the date, you won't even shake hands. Cuz you're both are just so nervous and shy!
What a trip down to memory lane. It gives me butterflies in the stomach
when I think about all these again. I was lucky to find someone who was direct though
and we are able to tell each other what we want
in a relationship. But before him, goodness. I'v actually felt like giving up. Nevertheless, I know some genuine guys who can't really express
in this kind of way for the fear of rejection. I think. Or they just like to take it slow.
Who knows. What I know, they're happily married now with their awesome wives. Anyway, hope this post is useful for you and hope to see you again in my next post! :)